Thoughts, Questions and Facts about BDSM
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There have been hundreds of thousands of studies done on the psychology of BDSM, all of which resulted in different outcomes, depending on the people interviewed. One thing is for sure, you can categorize people into three groups to gain a simple understanding of BDSM (which, if you weren’t aware before reading this, stands for Bondage, Discipline, Dominance and Submission or Sadism and Masochism). Now, the three basic groups are Subs, Doms and Switches, which represent the submissive types, dominant types and those who switch between the two roles.
Research shows that practitioners and fans of BDSM are actually more psychologically healthy compared to the general population. The physical and emotional release that BDSM gives, and the freedom of those who experiment with their limitations tend to have more of an awareness of their sexuality and sexual capabilities. Educating yourself in all aspects of play is highly recommended; the more comfortable you are with your body and the parameters of play, the happier and more comfortable you will be with yourself. And that’s true not just for BDSM, but for all sexual activity.
With the recent popularity of “Fifty Shades of Grey,” a broader audience is becoming more interested in and accepting of the BDSM community. It is still taboo, however, possibly because of the fear of receiving or giving pain. I personally feel so much love and respect while taking part in local BDSM events. There are so many fetishes out there that discovering which ones are right for you will take some experimenting. Just make sure that your partner understands your restrictions and that you have a safe word. Start slow if you are a beginner and don’t go into it with fear. Trust your partner. At Tulip we have so many things to help get you started–toys, accessories and books to help you gain a better understanding of it as a whole.
Once you begin exploring fetishes, it’s like opening a book of your kinks. They flow out and you begin to learn more and more about yourself with each experience. BDSM practitioners are more educated with sexual acts and therefore have safer ways of playing, even with risky or more hardcore acts like suspension or piercing play. Sometimes it takes a bit of play before you find out what role you prefer, but as I stated before you may just be a switch and it all depends on your serotonin or emotional standing in the moment.
Come in today and check out the toys we offer for BDSM play, or better yet, the education we can give you to begin your path to understanding your body and what it can and cannot handle.
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Seth
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